When they don't want you to change

You know - I absolutely love my job. 

I am a life shifting and transformational coach. I use my spiritual gifts as an intuitive to help my clients get out of the habits and limiting beliefs that are stopping them from living in their genius. In their excellence. 

When I get to watch a client "get it" and uplug from the 3D matrix/hologram and experience their first taste of sovereignty. . wowwwwww.

It's like watching the moment a baby is born. Until that moment, all the baby knew was the dark, warm womb with the muffled sounds of mom's heartbeat and voices of those excitedly awaiting his grand entry into the world. 

And the first breath. . .the first time he opens his eyes. . . the first time to hears his own cries or the clear voices of his parents. . . it's a whole new world. It's potential. It's everything. 

And when I witness a client go through a rebirth, it's very similar. They are able to see and hear the truth, without the filters from the programming. It's the moment they see their own divinity and their own Truth. It's so powerful, sacred and humbling - all at the same time. 

And I'm blessed enough to be able to watch my clients go through these kinds of transformations fairly often. 

But sometimes, the more they heal, find their voice, step into empowerment, and finally learn how to hold boundaries, a friend or family member will get upset. 

• Why? 
• Why do you need to work on yourself? 
• Why do you need to change? 
• Why are you changing our relationship? 
• Why are you now acting so differently? 
• Why aren't you now not willing to engage with me in the same way?

Have you heard the expression: 

The ones who have a problem with you healing and setting boundaries are the same ones who benefit from you not having them. 

It's true. 

If you have been the giver (and giver and giver and giver) in your relationships and that dynamic has benefited someone in your life, then chances are that they won't want you to change and suddenly cut off their supply of whatever you were providing. 

They like your lack of boundaries. It works for them. It benefits them. 

So of course, when you suddenly start saying no and standing up for yourself, it's going to be a problem. And the truth is that you may get a lot of resistance from people in your life. 

You may even have to repeatedly choose the happier, healthier and more powerful version of yourself - and sometimes, it may feel easier to just give up. And go back to the old way of doing things. Because at least then, you'll have peaceful interactions with ones who are upset because you are changing. 

But don't do that. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. 

Choose you. Choose the continue healing, growing, expanding, empowering and thriving. Choose the potential of an entirely new life. You deserve it. If it's uncomfortable - then that's growth. That's courage. That's expansion.

And here's a hard truth: Many people in your life only know the version of you that exists in their minds. They don't actually know you.  They use their beliefs, opinions and life experiences to make you fit into the role they need you to play. 

There is too much at stake for you to let yourself be limited to a supporting role in someone else's life. 

You deserve more than that. 

So let them. 

Let them be unhappy that you are changing. 

Let them be unhappy that you are creating and maintaining boundaries 

Let them be unhappy that you are committed to becoming the person you want to be. 

You never know. . . what starts are something really uncomfortable for them may end up being the catalyst for them to change their own lives. 

So choose you. Go all in on the life you want to create and live. 

And let them. 

 I leave you with one of my favorite quotes by Marianne Williamson: 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

• So ask yourself - what would the best version of me do today? 
• What does greatness look like? And do that. 
• What would someone who loves themselves unconditionally do? And do that. 
• What would I do today if I knew everything I wanted would happen? And do that.